What Valentine’s Day Means to Me

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For some, Valentine’s Day is a day to express your love to that special person in your life. This can be with romantic gestures, thoughtful gifts or over a nice meal.

For others, it is an even bigger, annoying reminder of their singlehood.

Some consider it just a Hallmark holiday that has been fabricated; so there is no reason to celebrate at all.

Some parents love to shower their kids with heart-shaped pancakes for breakfast or candy as a treat.

But often it’s just the pressure to find the right gift.

I’ve experienced Valentine’s Day in all of these ways.

My feelings about this holiday have run the gamut, despite the fact that I’ve had some perfectly loving, giddy, Hallmark-style ones.

When I started dating my husband Rob, I told him that we didn’t need to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I was at a point in my life where I felt that it was a holiday for men {yes, specifically men; how sexist of me!} who never did anything for their significant others throughout the year. He was surprised. He told his friends. They said I was lying, that I’d still expect something. But I meant it. And he respected my wishes.

That was 13 years ago.

Over the years, we tried to find ways to get around Valentine’s Day because we like to dine out and and Valentine’s Day is one of the the worsts days to do that. It’s such a bad value and the menus are often limited. Everything is overpriced!

Within the last couple of years though, I’ve almost started to regret my snubbing of cupid’s holiday. I thought a little romantic gesture would be nice. I didn’t want a grand ordeal, just something unexpected and special.

But none of that matters; because last year, things changed.

We were in a terrible rollover accident last February 14th that left us shaken and grateful to be alive. I still have flashbacks of the event and some anxiety driving and even riding along.

Today is our day that we thankful to be alive. To be grateful that we have each other. Instead of poo-pooing Valentine’s Day this year, do something nice for yourself or a loved one. Schedule a massage. Call a parent. Do one little thing for your spouse. Send flowers to a friend. In fact, it doesn’t have to be a today. Pick any day… any day that means something to you. Or better yet, any day when you are really feeling ALIVE and are grateful to be so.

How do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?

And guess what? Rob and I are going to indulge in one of the cheesy Valentine’s Day dinners tonight! In fact, last year, we were en route from IKEA to Burger Jones for lunch; but didn’t make it. We will get there this year for some burgers and a bottle of Dom.

Cheers~
Carrie

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3 responses »

  1. I can’t believe that accident was a year ago! Wow. And yes, after something like that, it does put your life into perspective.

    The first and ONLY Valentine’s dinner Tony and I went to was a small restaurant. I looked over the menu carefully and knew we would both find something we each liked.

    Until we got there and saw that it was a pre fix menu – at $150 per person WITHOUT wine – I seriously never saw that on their website while making the reservation.

    And it was tiny plates – 9 courses, but all small portions, and after spending nearly $400 on food and drink, hit up Burger King on the way home because we were both still hungry – that was the best $10 we spent and vowed never to get sucked into V-Day again.

    Enjoy your burgers and Dom!

  2. Wow! It’s been a year already?! Enjoy your Valentine’s Day this year : ) …Burgers and Dom sound like a perfect way to celebrate!

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